Seek
by Scott Shigeoka
Key Concepts
Deep Listening
Go beyond surface-level hearing to understand underlying emotions and motivations.
Curiosity Mindset
Approach disagreements with genuine wonder, not judgment, to uncover new insights.
Vulnerable Sharing
Reveal your authentic self and feelings to build trust and foster deeper connection.
Bridge Building
Actively seek common ground and shared humanity, even amidst profound differences.
Beautiful Questions
Ask open-ended, non-judgmental questions that invite deeper reflection and sharing.
Action Items
Before reacting, pause and ask yourself, "What am I curious about here?"
Share a personal story or feeling related to the topic to humanize your perspective.
Actively listen for the emotions behind someone's words, not just the facts.
Identify one shared value or goal with someone you disagree with.
Practice asking "beautiful questions" that invite deeper dialogue instead of debate.
Core Thesis
Authentic connection in a divided world requires intentional curiosity, vulnerability, and a willingness to truly understand differing perspectives.
Mindset Shift
The book shifts from viewing disagreements as battles to be won, to seeing them as opportunities for profound learning and connection.